If we believe that everything we do has to make us all happy-go-lucky, reality will come and hit us like a cold shower. Happiness self-help readers who want everything all cozy and warm will definitely be in for a shock. Still, doesn’t everyone just want to be happy? Right now and forever? But reality, with a sly wink, gives the ubiquitously celebrated mantra of self-optimization a miss, and an increasingly entrepreneurial relationship with ourselves is of little help here anyway.
Unfortunately, luck and happiness cannot be meticulously planned. On the contrary, the safest formula for being unhappy is to constantly think about happiness (and to obsess with yourself). We shouldn’t try to get happiness or life to dance to our tune anyway.